I set off this year with a goal to “read more.” “Read more” is the type of ambiguous goal that I chastise students for making because they haven’t thought through the steps it will take to be successful. But in real life, I don’t believe in #goals. I just wanted to break the cycle of blindly consuming social media and news on my phone, because that type of reading never makes me feel good. I knew I was turning to my phone to fill in these little gaps in time, of which there were many, and I figured if I filled in the gaps with books instead, I’d get pretty far. I was right and that feels good, but it doesn’t feel good just because I was right. It feels good because I am ending the year feeling self-aware, and confident, and inspired, and creative, and joyful. And I know I wouldn’t have made it to this spot without this magical combination of 34 books, which were unintentionally and unexpectedly thematic. I learned about personality and creativity, time and the ways in which we relate to it, how we learn, why we regret, and most importantly, the all-encompassing power of joy. Even if that all sounds random (it’s not, I promise), each of the (non-fiction) books I read this year seemed to build on the previous, leading me to a place I otherwise wouldn’t have been able to find. The books were working together to put me together.
I know I can’t possibly blather on about all 34 books, so instead I am highlighting three that burned so brightly they lit up the dark places of my year. All three were textbook (ha!) cases of reading the exact right thing at the exact right time.
Hyperbole and a Half and Solutions and Other Problems by Allie Brosh
Is this cheating? I know it’s two books, which if you look ahead and do the math comes out to four total, and I said I’d blather on about only three… But c’mon, it’s Allie Brosh. Don’t make me choose. I don’t know that I’d have found my way to these two books had I not read the graphic memoir Everything is an Emergency by Jason Adam Katzenstein. This was my first read of the year, and while memoir is my preferred genre, I unexpectedly enjoyed the graphic format so much, I went looking for more books with pictures. Turning up Allie Brosh was like hitting the jackpot. If you’re familiar with her work already, I know you know what I mean. If you’re unfamiliar and want me to explain more…. I can’t. It’s inexplicable in the best way possible. Let me do you a favor by pointing you to her blog.
Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman
All three of the books that are on this list have something else in common. In addition to being the right reads at the right time, I also highlighted more of the books than Kindle said it was legally allowed to export. And I know what you’re thinking here. You’re thinking, “hey, didn’t famous author Nick Hornby tell you – you, personally – to stop annotating and cataloging the books you read?” Well, yes. Yes he did. But I can’t, and honestly, I think he knows that. There are so many wonderful ideas and lessons in Burkeman’s book that are worth returning to and remembering, like this one:
The fundamental problem is that this attitude toward time sets up a rigged game in which it’s impossible ever to feel as though you’re doing well enough. Instead of simply living our lives as they unfold in time—instead of just being time, you might say—it becomes difficult not to value each moment primarily according to its usefulness for some future goal, or for some future oasis of relaxation you hope to reach once your tasks are finally “out of the way.” Superficially, this seems like a sensible way to live, especially in a hypercompetitive economic climate, in which it feels as though you must constantly make the most judicious use of your time if you want to stay afloat. (It also reflects the manner in which most of us were raised: to prioritize future benefits over current enjoyments.) But ultimately it backfires. It wrenches us out of the present, leading to a life spent leaning into the future, worrying about whether things will work out, experiencing everything in terms of some later, hoped-for benefit, so that peace of mind never quite arrives. And it makes it all but impossible to experience “deep time,” that sense of timeless time which depends on forgetting the abstract yardstick and plunging back into the vividness of reality instead.
I found Burkeman because he’s referenced in Jenny O’Dell’s newest book Saving Time, which I also read this year. While I enjoyed Four Thousand Weeks more, I’ll credit both with my new resolve to opt out of anyone else’s ideas of how I should spend my time. And with this idea planted in my brain that my time is my own, I went on to discover and rediscover that there’s no experiencing deep time without deep joy.
If at any point previously, you’d stopped me and asked, “what’s your favorite book,” I would’ve said it was a tie between The Great Gatsby and the aforementioned Hornby’s Juliet, Naked. And I would’ve been telling the truth. Those are two of my favorite books. But, as fiction makes up an itty-bitty fraction of what I read (for example, one out of the 34 books I read this year was fiction), I’d been wondering why I don’t have a non-fiction answer to the question of my favorite book. It’s possible that this was just a failure of imagination on my part. Or, perhaps I just had yet to read This is Not a Book about Benedict Cumberbatch: The Joy of Loving Something – Anything – Like Your Life Depends On It.
Our own obsessions are exquisite; they’re the gleaming circles that encompass, perfectly, our innermost thoughts and desires. But when we turn our insides out to display them to the world, expose these precious, private parts of ourselves to the light, all anyone else sees is a toilet bowl full of poo coins.
This is Not a Book about Benedict Cumberbatch brought my barreling freight train of reading to a complete halt in November of this year. I could’ve read four or five more books before 2024, but I closed Tabitha Carvan’s debut masterpiece and, crying like a baby, thought, well, it’s never going to get any better than this. I announced at the dinner table that I might need to retire from reading. (To which Sonja responded, WHAT?!?) I just couldn’t have needed to hear what this book had to say more than I did. It was a transformative experience for me, and I wanted to share this with you not because I think this book would be a transformative experience for you, but because…Well, I’ll let Carvan herself explain.
A book like this, should it tell you what to do? It seems pretty presumptuous. You might be much happier than me; you might already know all this. I don’t want to tell you what to do. But also, I’m desperate for you to know that it’s worth it. Finding your thing, I mean. Feeling a spark of something, and instead of instinctively dousing it, fanning the flames. It feels good. It feels good in a way that’s hard to get across because the alternative, not having a thing, doesn’t necessarily feel bad, just normal.
I have only just started to read again, very slowly and timidly, after at least a month’s hiatus. Now I see the genius of the ambiguous goal. Instead of insisting on a certain number of hours per week or books per month, simply “reading more” allowed me to let the experience unfold. It allowed me to stop and savor that which deserved savoring. And when you think about it, the point of “reading more” wasn’t ever just a numbers game, but a search for joy. Mission accomplished. My new goal for next year is simply to “continue reading.”